Shaadi is not always mubaark. I have felt the impulse to pick up this line from some one else’s write up (without permission), as though for different reasons I also feel the same way. Even carefully considered most marriages yield only children, and no happiness and virtually no love is experienced all through. Marriage survives because none of the parties have the courage to call it a day at any given time. Both partners keep on taking shelter under a kind of wishful thinking giving themselves false hopes all their lives. Many marriages in India sustain even after the man and his family members have faced police and/or courts on the complaints of his wife and/or in-laws under section 498 A etc. which in more than 93% of the cases prove to be false. With what feelings in heart such marriages are made to continue just to make it appear to the out side world a case of successful patch up is any body’s guess.
These days after marriage, most of the brides insist on and succeed in having a separate domestic establishment away from the interference of her in-laws, even where the husband may be partly or fully dependent on his parents and/or other family members or having a joint family business. But when it comes to filing a (most of times false and fabricated) complaint under various section of dowry act, particularly under section 498 A, names of all the family members of the husband are included in it.
I remember having read some where the following ‘humorously serious’ lines about marriage:
‘Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience’.
These lines surely do hold good for the present day ground situation.
Time is likely to come soon when, men will prefer live-in-relationship with facility of paid for sex over marriage. Live-in-relationship has been made legal, and the children from such live-in-relationships have also been given legal status by the supreme court of India. It is high time paid for sex is also made legal. Let us not pretend ignorance of the fact that sex is something, every healthy person in every part of the world desires and tries his best to indulge in it.
Having sex for money may appear to be a morally unethical act to some, but no dishonesty is involved in it. However some degree of dishonesty is always there in every marriage. Even in case of a love marriage, where love has stood the test of time to some extent, It is often observed that after marriage love does not last long even if the marriage may last a bit.
In cases where both the partners are some time required to stay at different stations for a little longer periods, it will not be wrong to assume that this so called morally unethical but basically a natural act is being indulged in, even if to say, only once in a blue moon, by almost all the persons.
So let us admit that it is high time to have a re look at various laws including laws dealing with marriage, sex trade and the workers who are willingly in that trade.
With real regards to all who may disagree with my views and I hope to receive guidance from them.